Child custody issues are frequently some of the most contentious and complex involved in any divorce. In order to succeed in mediation, you must be willing to listen to the other side and be open-minded. Depending on the dynamics of your relationship, several common dilemmas can really throw a wrench into negotiations. Be aware of issues and ensure that you choose with comfortable in helping you work through complex challenges.
One of the biggest challenges that can erupt during child custody mediation has to do with one or both parties pursuing a new relationship area whether it’s moving to continue a new relationship or getting married again, this can often inflame old emotions very quickly. This is especially true when the other parent is concerned about his or her ability to maintain a relationship with any children.
Another common issue has to do with having one home base for the child and one or more parents being concerned about establishing stability and uniformity in each house. While a troubled marriage certainly isn’t the most positive atmosphere for parenting children, it can be just as difficult to adjust to maintaining two separate households with different rules. To the extent that you are able, compromise with the other spouse about what rules you would like to be consistent across both households. Some of this involves a learning curve, but an experienced Suffern child custody mediator may be able to help you work through these complex issues.
Knowing ahead of time what can make conversation more difficult is helpful, but only when you have a talented mediator to help you address the concerns outright.